Finishing the Race: Graduating Our Homeschooled Student

It has been a little quiet here on the blog lately.  Our family had a busy time of preparation last week.  Friday evening we graduated our oldest daughter from high school.

This is the child that made me a mother for the first time.  Then she made me a homeschooling mom.  Now she has made me a mother to a beautiful, grown-up young adult.

3 John 1:4 I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth.

This verse was so present in my mind this weekend. There really is no greater joy than seeing your children grow up to absolutely love the Lord.

As we were preparing for the graduation and the subsequent family dinner, my daughter and I were reflecting back over the years of homeschooling. She was asking me about my thoughts of homeschooling over the years. Here are a few of our reflections:

1. Homeschooling is not about education.

Surprising, huh? But it’s really not. It is about training up your children in the fear and admonition of the Lord. The “education” comes in as a part of this mandate, but not the whole of the mandate. We learn to read and write and do equations so that we can better serve the Lord. I loved what the graduation speaker, John Stonestreet, said, “God has created us as human beings, not human doings.” It’s not what we do that matters, but who we are.

2. Everything the public school advocates say is true.

Our kids are not being socialized, I am not qualified to teach them, and yes, they are being indoctrinated. And you know what, praise God it is so.

I don’t want my children being socialized. I have seen how socialized children act and I don’t want any part of it. I would much rather them learn to be encouragers, to be communicators, to be the kind of person who can reach out to people of all ages and not be afraid.

And, no, I am not qualified at all to teach my children. I don’t know enough, I am not patient enough, and I certainly don’t get it all done. I sleep too late in the morning and we have never had a school year where we finished all the curriculum. But you what, by the grace of God, and through Him, I have ran the race and finished well.

3. I have learned more than I have taught.

It is true. Each step of the way, I have had to learn not only the material the children needed to learn before I taught them, but also the character qualities. If I didn’t exhibit the learning in my own life, it was being properly taught.

I think this is part of the plan the Lord has for us in teaching our own children. By teaching them, we are being refined in our own learning.

4. The hardest part about homeschooling — staying home with my kids each day.

We are all sinners and being around sinners all day is difficult. There is no way around it. I just thank the Lord that He uses my children to sanctify me, and uses me to sanctify them.

5. The best part about homeschooling — staying home with my kids each day.

What a blessing to wake up each morning and spend my day with bright-eyed-and-bushy-tailed kids! What a blessing to be the one to see them take their first steps, to hear them read their first words, and to sit in the passenger seat as they take their first drive!

There are lots of people out there that are really great at taking care of babies and teaching kids, but I am the one that the Lord has given these children to. I am the one He has blessed with their presence. I am the only one that can really do the job of being their mother.


  1. Congratulations to you and your family! What a journey.

    I love points 4 and 5! So true. The best and hardest part of homeschooling is being home with the kids all day!

  2. What a great post! Especially number one; I have been learning that very same lesson.


  3. Congratulations!! 🙂 I don’t homeschool my kids but I think this is awesome! I commend you and you have a beautiful family!!


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